12 Week 4 Days with Baby # 3

12 Weeks 4 Days # 3Being pregnancy with your third baby is not like being pregnant with your first.

For instance with you 1st you take pictures of your belly even before you have a belly and at every week after that. With not your 1st, you are lucky to have any proof of you actually carrying a baby. Okay, so maybe I am exaggerating but I had to force myself to take the second to go outside to get this picture.

Time also passes very differently with your subsequent pregnancies. The first time around you think that due date will never come. This time around I think to myself how time has flown by already (of course, I didn’t think that a few weeks ago when I couldn’t even look at food without getting sick).

Your focus is in a very different place. Sometimes I forget that I am pregnant. I have to remind myself not to do this or that because I am expecting. It is easy to get distracted when you have two toddlers running around sticking their hands in the paint tray as you frantically try to paint their room while no one is melting down.

One thing that has also changed with each new pregnancy… how much more attached I feel sooner. With my first, it was sometimes difficult to get my mind around a baby in my tummy, but once you have that precious baby in your arms, it becomes so wonderfully real. Now I see each new pregnancy as a new baby in our family, not just a baby in my tummy. I am not saying I loved the first one less during pregnancy, but I was not as attached until he came out.

I am so excited to be expecting another blessing from the Lord and cannot wait to meet him or her in just a few short months.

I am in good company with many friends and family members all due around the same time. I love sharing these moments with them and encouraging those first time moms to make every moment count. My oldest in only 3 and my youngest 18 months, but the time passes quickly. Don’t rush through any moment. They are all gifts!

OBGYN North – In Hospital Option That Won’t Leave You Without Any Options

OBGYN North

As part of my childbirth education training I am required to interview hospitals, birth centers, homebirth midwives, and OBGYNs that could be a possible place to recommend to my future students. So far, I have visited Austin Area Birth Center, Central Texas Birth Center, Cedar Park Medical Center, North Austin Medical Center, and OBGYN North.

The two birthing centers are clear choices if you want to go natural without any intervention. The midwives there are dedicated, caring, and good at what they do.

But what if you want to or need to have your baby in a hospital so you can have access to technology or pain relief.

Many hospitals in the area are pushing, cold, and firm when it comes to their strict rules. You must, for instance, at Cedar Park Medical Center, be connected to electronic fetal monitoring at all time, have an IV, are not allowed to eat or drink. The doctors that serve there have typical high C-section rates and induce and augment regularly.

On the other hand, OBGYN North, serving at North Austin Medical Center is a doctor/midwife practice that encourages woman to move around during labor, uses intermittent fetal monitoring, allows eating and drinking, showering, and practices delayed cord clamping.

Plus, with a low 11% C-section rate, is a great option for in hospital births.

OBGYN North also allow post dating to 42 weeks and laboring longer than most standard practices. Of course, with any pregnancy, things can change and what is believed to be best for mother and baby will always take priority, but with such a supportive staff and environment, you chances of having a natural birth at OBGYN North are much higher.

OBGYN North also just recently opened a birthing center right next door to the main practice where you can birth in the water and has all the regular amenities of a traditional free standing birth center just right across the street from North Austin Medical Center. They also now offer Nitrous Oxide to help get laboring women through those difficult times, if necessary.

I used to believe that the only way to give birth naturally was at home or in a free standing birth center.

I am now persuaded that OBGYN North is a great alternative for those wishing to birth their babies in the hospital.

Judgment?

 

 

 

 

There is a Bible verse that says “haste makes mistakes”. Judgment falls into this. When we judge, we make the assumption that we are or will do things differently.

In childbirth and parenting we usually judge before actually having first hands experience. We watch “A Baby Story” and say to ourselves “that will never be me”. I will never be the woman screaming in pain. I will never be the lady that births in a pool. I’ll never have C-Section, or an epidural. I will do it natural; I will be in control.

In parenting, we do the same thing. We have goods intentions by planning and believing, but often times our beliefs turn into ammunition for judging someone else’s.

It is only after we have had our butts tossed off our high horse that we find humility.

To clarify, I am not saying to not have standards or make provisions. Do! Just be sure that yours don’t become a weapon.  I personally have learned this lesson the hard way. I now have learned and choose to not live in the world of “elite” thinking. I now live in the world of knowledge with chose.

My goal as a soon to be childbirth educator will be just that. Give people the knowledge but then give them the freedom from judgment to chose. Chose for themselves what is best or what just makes them more comfortable.

Losing the judgment allows for you and others to make mistakes with out being shamed in the process.

The Birth Story of Aaron Avram

Aaron was finally here!

After waiting 40 weeks and 2 days I couldn’t believe that he was actually in my arms. Throughout pregnancy I knew a baby grew inside me but until that little bundle of joy was in my arms it just never seems that real to me.

Getting to this place was a long road filled with struggles, doubts, and fears. Learning was a major goal and my desire was for a peaceful vaginal home birth after my first more traumatic C-section.

I just knew this time would be different.

Well, it was different, but not in the way I expected and probably, if I am being honest with myself, not the ideal situation. I will say this before I give more details, though; every experience in life, whether good or bad, is a learning experiences use by God to strengthen us. I believe that I am being put through the fires of life’s trials so that I can be purified into the preciousness my God desires of me.

My experience with Aaron’s birth was 100x better than the first, but I hoped for a perfectly positive experience and I did not get exactly that.

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Kegal Exercises: Are they really necessary?

Throughout my research about birth I am continuity confronted with the topic of Kegal exercises as preparation for childbirth and postpartum recovery. I rarely, if not ever, put any weight on these exercises and just though it as an unnecessary practice only the super fanatical did.
Well, I have learned my lesson and I hope to help others take the matter more seriously. I am still only about 3 weeks postpartum now and know that the situation will improve with time, but I am experiences a case of uterine/cervical prolapse. This is when the uterus/cervix dips down into your vagina (to varying degrees) and in very sever cases, out of the vagina all together. Most woman that experiences it though only have a slight prolapse. This is usually cause by weak muscles supporting the uterus/cervix. In my case, I am almost certain that it was brought on by my first birth and then exacerbated by the final phase of my second birth (birth story still to come). I am currently still on partial bed rest and having to do Kegal exercises as often as possible which makes caring for my family a bit tougher than I ever anticipated with a vaginal birth.
LADIES!!! DO YOUR KEGALS DURING PREGNANCY!!!
Avoid postpartum issues by doing the leg work during the time when you don’t have a newborn to care for. I was so ready to have my pregnancy over because I was uncomfortable having no idea that the discomfort I would feel postpartum would make being pregnant seem like a walk in the park.
Kegal exercises can also help with avoiding or mitigating:

  • Urinary incontinences
  • Hemorrhoids

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The Goal

I have learned a lot over the last 9 months. At the end of the day as I sit here writing, the biggest lesson I am taking away from this experience is this:

IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT THE BIRTH!!!

That being said, I did have a good birth experience, but even with a perfect one, I forgot about the end.

MY SON!!!

I can’t express enought about this lesson. Whether I had a c-section or a VBAC, time passes and the memory fades. What doesn’t fade is the child you have brought into this world.

I sit here with my newborn son resting at my leg and the memory of the 45 minute dance marathon my older son preformed for us before his bedtime and I can’t help but just smile. Smile for the joy of children. My children. God is so good to provide us with such an example of His love for us. As parents we get so much joy is seeing our children grow and flourish. They get stronger and smarted day by day and the love that you give them manifest itself into pleasure for you to enjoy. I don’t love Josiah less because he was born via c-section nor do I love Aaron more because he was born naturally.

My point is this:

Children are the goal of birth, not birth.

That being said, I still believe in trying to achieve a wonderful birth experience and I am so excited for my future as I prepare to become a childbirth educator. This lesson will just help me to help others remain focused on keeping the main thing the main thing.

Home Birth Supplies

So as I am getting closer to my due date I am making my preparations for my home birth. I have started to accumulate things, starting with the most crucial. I still have a few holes to fill in but here is the list I have accumulated.
1. The Medical Birth Kit – This has all kind of stuff like sterile gloves, pads, chux, etc. This is put together by my Midwife and ordered from a local birth supplies company called “In His Hands“. (BTW, this company is run by a sweet little family and does a wonderful job at getting your birth kit to you in a hurry).
2. Birth Pool (Optional) – I did not have a pool last time and enjoyed the water in my garden tub. My midwife has one for her homebirths so I am taking advantage of it. You will need a hose to hook up to your hot water (from water heater or laundry room) and a liner (for sanitary purposes).
3. High gauge plastic drop cloths for carpeted areas and for under the pool.

4. Plastic sheets and pillow cases – I got the ones with zippers that slip over the whole mattress.

5. Back massages – I have a manual one and an electronic one
6. Fetal Doppler (optional as your midwife will have her own) – I bought this at the beginning of my pregnancy and used it a lot from 10 weeks to about 20 weeks. After that you can feel the baby move so you don’t need it as much. I like to have this available in early labor before the midwife comes so you can always check fetal heart tones yourself. Note: Renting is a waste of money. Buy this one, it works perfect.
7. Extra bed sheets – flat, fitted, and pillow cases. Some for the birth and some for afterwards. Ones you don’t mind getting messed up.
8. Lots of towels (both bath towels and hand towels) – I got some bright pink ones at wal-mart during the back to school time for college students. They are really cheap sets. You could also go to goodwill. Do not use good towels.

9. Scented candles – a scent that is associated with relaxation and good memories.

10. Floor fan in case you get hot
11. Floor heater in case you get cold
12. Heating pad for labor and perineal support
13. Cooling pack for labor and perineal comfort at the birth
14. Big bowl for placenta
15. Bowl or trash can for nausea

16. Camera (of course) – Make sure to have enough space (extra SD cards) and extra batteries

17. Baby supplies (of course) – Cloths, diapers, hats, socks
18. 6 to 8 receiving blankets

19. Chap stick

20. Snack and juice – Nothing too heavy or too acidic. I have some Emergen-C which is helpful during a long labor.

21. Hydrogen Peroxide to remove blood stains
22. Trash bags

Some midwives will want you to sterilize all your sheets and towels but I find this unnecessary as your home is not a sterile environment and as long as your stuff in newly washed, I can’t see the harm.

This is not an exhastive list and somethings may still be needed and others not used at all but it is a good starting point.